Emotional Self care is not just about tkaing a break from a stressful situation or environment.

Although that might help.

It’s about breaking through the stressed, negative thinking emotions in reaction to the situation.

You could be away from the situation but it still affecting us because we can’t stop thinking about it.

Thoughts of powerlessness, hopelessness and comparison.

I suggest you 3 simple steps on how to move from those feelings to emotional Self care:

1. Stop comparing yourself to people or standards that don’t embrace your mental Self-care:

You don’t know everything about anyone so can’t expect to mirror that or an idea someone else may have of yourself. That will bring you frustration and make you unhappy.

To break free you need to let go of expectations of the past, of the future and bring yourself to the present reality. Let go of what is not in our control.

Reality isn’t good or bad, it’s neutral. So it all falls into our interpretation of it.

You are exactly where you need to be’ – that took me a while to digest.

If you watch your fears coming up, we’ll get to them.

2. Prioritise your mental and emotional wellbeing over other’s people’s needs and opinions:

Something very important to understand is that no one is going to do your Self-care for you.

It is a necessary part of recovery so it isn’t selfish.

· Only you know what is best for you, when you need a break and what words help you.

So why should you listen to others’ demands of you first?

The more connected you are to yourself, your emotions and values, decisions will come easier – always from a kind and respectful place -.

If you need time, ask. If you need space, take it.

You do this for yourself, and your beloved ones will benefit too.

Some thoughts might come up for you.

3. Accept your emotions

Your thoughts will try to follow your biggest fears. But they are there to protect you. (Unless you are on a life-or-death situation, you can thank them and let them go.)

· The key is at accepting your emotions.

Breath yourself to that with acceptance instead of judgement.

It’s time to accept your emotions as a part of you but from the totality that you are. And give yourself the mental rest you need without running away.

How would you support someone you love unconditionally?

Your life long cheerleader HAS to be yourself.

Then you will be able to envision and create the life we want for ourselves and who you want to become.

And when you do that, you will connect to our true self and power.

Where will you start from?

If you want to start building up your Self love and need support and guidance through the process

feel free to Book a free call now. I’ll be more than happy to assist you.